Dilani Diva

Love does not define boundaries. It speaks to us through many many situations. It is not an easy thing to be in love with a man, Let alone sharing him with another. Life is complicated as it is and to handle all that takes a lot of wisdom and some courage.

Some of us have been placed in this rather compromising position. Some of us are going through a hard time wondering when you will hear from your love again. yes i have counseled many during these hard times.

Most of those i have spoken to have had great spiritual connections with their partners. he could be a past life connection and you feel your heart connecting with him almost immediately . and before you know it you are involved.!!! This is sometimes the case.

The past life connection is a hard one to let go. You may have tried, and woken up feeling lost and depressed. I understand. The important fact is that you work through it at the time.

To most people being in love is a wonderful intense experience. and it should be. Most of my clients who ask me this question. The important fact is to understand where your man or women is coming from. Look at his background . Once you have understood the circumstances then we can look at the emotional aspects of the relationship.

Most of the time people have a great sense of duty that surrounds them. if you are a mother or a father the duty as a parent can over come the desire to be with a lover. So sometimes you end up feeling left out.
It is hard dealing with these times but it is also important to understand the kind of connection that you have with your lover. Him being unavailable does not mean that he does not care.

Most of the time people push aside the feelings of love, because it cam take up a lot of their energy and leaves them feeling a little impractical. Specially when situations demands one to- ” just get things done”.

It is better at the time to focus on positive thoughts and remember the good times. Even though life may not seem very fair to you at the time, getting grouchy about it will only add to the energy separation and spiritual distancing. .

Now I don’t mean you need to go out and party!! No, it is better to find another area that you feel happy being in or doing some thing that brings you joy. Don’t make your feelings the central focus of your life. If you do you are in for a lonely ride sometimes.

Remember that sense of duty, and time to love, is most often kept separate and so you have to stop hurting your mind over the fact that he has not called you in a few days.
It is not for me to tell you how to live your life. but we own the most important spiritual gift. Making good choices. So if you do care very deeply for your lover at this time. Look at it for what it is. believe in your own feeling and make good choices for your future.
you will know if he loves you, You will feel it when you are with him. take those times to be special and understand them for what they are. In other words. ” call a spade a spade ” Life is about working the path. We have all wanted to walk the path of life and so how we do it becomes our own choice.

Walk it well. Protect your choices and understand that love is sometimes sacrificed for duty. It is better to live your life well and let this relationship be an enriching factor to your life. Placing it in the center of your being may not be the best thing to do, If he is still involved with another. Even though LOVE is very essential, your investment in love also needs to give you some returns.

The best way to do this is to give yourself a timeframe towards your relationship. Or else you may be find yourself constantly being ” the other ” women. Now if this is OK with you then so be it. Life and love is precious. Don’t waste it…

Be mindful of how important your daily life is. Imagine it filled with love, and set your goals to achieve it. Time spent can never be regained. So spend it will, wisely, effectively and with purpose. May the Love of the universe be with you now and always.

Yours faithfully. The Diva