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The Virtual Relationship
Love Stands by the door
Sending Shivers down my spine,
Till I can stand no more.
Will he love me ?
I don’t know.
Finding out is what I need to do,
and who knows – the one
May Just be You !
Time’s have changed, bringing love to us through telephone lines and computer screens. Dating sites flash wonderful welcoming pictures at us all the time. Life is good. Love is good.
There are many that have found ” true love” through many of these wonderful places. however there are others that seem to be struggling with these ” virtual ” love affairs. Even though this form of connection may appear to be distant and disconnected there are many who have made a heart felt commitment to some wonderful man that has swept the off their feet. Experiences connected to a screen of a computer. The feelings that develop through these intimate conversations are as real as those who are in the same room. Even though one could say that the fantasy lives on, it is indeed a very real sort of fantasy to some, and not to be taken lightly.
This is all well and good, today we are indeed blessed with more opportunities of meeting ” the one” However it is important to bring this love to light, bring it to the open, bring it to reality. Some times we don’t really want that . for the ” fantasy somehow has a better feeling of love, than actually going through the motions of meeting the man or women and then having to learn who they really truly are. Often enough many people come with baggage and you end up having to share the load.Not fun at all. Incomes the Load and out goes the Joy !!!!
So we are left with the Good and the “not so good” aspect of these vibrant ” loves” It is always better at a early stage to encourage them to meet you. That way, even though the fantasy dies and reality begins, your heart has time to decide if this is what you would like to explore.
Now let me not burst the bubble for those who enjoy Cyber-Talk. If this is indeed an enjoyment factor, please continue !!! However, remember to be responsible to your heart. If it is the thrill and the joy you are seeking, then go for it.If it is the love and the companionship that you are looking for then, take that cyber love,and make it real. Go meet the man. Go meet the women. Take it to the next level. There is nothing sweeter than finally saying hello.
Try not to have GREAT expectancies, but be open to learn and share what truly is real. there is a lotta love out there and there is one just for each of us. So there is nothing wrong in seeking, finding, Loving and resting. My wish for all of you, is to seek that better love that lies within all of us.
Don’t kiss your computer- kiss your man !
and smile when you do it.
May the wisdom of the universe be with you now.
DD
Hey Dilani!!! Wow! I can totally relate to these last few blog entries, especially the one before this one, the one titled “How to deal with sharing . . .” But both are relevant. Synchronisity in my face!
I met a girl off the internet (not a dating sight but from a group who focused on spirituality and the greater unseen world) and we clicked straight away. I’ve never been one to meet people or even talk to people off the Internet, but sometimes things just happen. She has become my very bestest friend, and now we are going to meet for a weekend of fun and joy. We talk on Skype all the time and stuff, but this meeting is extremely important because as wonderful as the Internet can be, it only offers a portion of what true togetherness is. I suppose this is obvious, but I agree that there is an opportunity for people who are shy and/or reticent to feel secure with dipping the toes in the water because the idea of going head first is terrifying. But I say half-heartedness never got anyone anywhere, and there should be no fear of failure. It reminds me of a poem by Rumi, who said: Gamble everything for love. If not, leave this game . . . . I suppose it comes from the fear of being hurt, but if we were never meant to hurt, then we would not have incarnated into this realm of materiality. Sometimes the failure of a relationship can open doors that lead to the success of another, if we are open to learning and evolving. Of course we don’t want to suffer to the point where the will is broken or the heart is shattered, but I am sure these can be prevented if we focus on the learning aspect of all our relationships.
When I think about it, the Internet and these corresondences with someone from a “distant land” are not so new. I suppose since we’ve had some means of using a courier to transport messages, we’ve had the opportunity to relate and connect from a distance. I think of those movies and stories that focus on the love letter, and even then it had the power to bring two hearts together and make them one. Nevertheless, physical proximity must be encouraged at all cost because it is the fertile ground for which a relationship can fully grow and become something beautiful, something in bloom.
As for sharing, I’m a selfish bugger: All mine!! She’s all mine!! But jealousy, though flattering at times, can become ugly. It takes a wise person, an evolved person, to be willing to share. I think there’s a word for this, one I forget often, but remember sometimes: Unconditional Love.
Well, I better stop before you cut me off. I think I met my word quota for the day! Yeah. Great posts. Thank you for sharing.
All the best,Dilani
Christopher
As usual my dear Christopher. I too enjoy your sharing and feedback. I am so happy that you chose to place some of your own personal incites. They are appreciated. Love hearing from you . Hope you have a wonderful weekend. Fun in the sun .